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Hi Urban Daters! As you know, we're about a month and a half into the new year, and we've been long teasing what's to come for the Urban Dater. We've been working on big things (including an e-book that we're soon to announce!), and we broke our highest hits ever last month--in fact, our readership has more than doubled since this time last year. We also … [Read more...]

Giving Thanks and a Birthday

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I started getting a few messages from folks on LinkedIn congratulating me. Surely, I'd done something shitty, but no. Upon further investigation, I saw that LinkedIn alerted the world that I'd been "working at" the Urban Dater for 6 years now. Really? Six years!? Wow. I know I don't write as much as I once did, yet I do still date like a motherfucker. But … [Read more...]

Perspective is Everything.

Dating perspectives

My friends were there laughing. I'd just told them how I'd had a threesome with a cute woman and her chihuahua (not really, but the chihuahua really makes for a good punchline) and they were rolling. "Really!!?" they asked.  I went on to tell a couple of other woeful dating stories. Again, to more laughs. My friend, Dee, rolled her eyes as her best friend … [Read more...]

A Message on OkCupid

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If you know me, you know that I'm a turd and generally an asshole. So when I tell my friends about the insane messages I sometimes send people they're not surprised and I'm sure you won't be either. I'm sharing a message I sent about a month ago to a user on OkCupid. There was a glaring strike, however: The fact she lived in Canada. Yep. Geographically … [Read more...]

Online Dating Tips for Women

Online Dating Tips for Women

Most of the people who come to this site are women. Which is great. I love the fuck out of women. With the holidays upon us, I've thought a lot about why women get frustrated with dating online. The fact of that matter is that my male brethren kind of suck. That is, we're all a bunch of dorks; turds and general fuck heads who have little idea about what … [Read more...]