Tag: break ups

A Woman is More Than a Mechanism

When I was a child, I was so lonely I would call the radio station to talk to the DJ. Sharon, or Dave, or whoever graced the airwaves, were always referencing their funny conversations and giving shoutouts to listeners who...

/ August 12, 2016

Taking The Power Back

Image courtesy of themarkeworeworld.com When my twelve-year toxic relationship ended I was devastated. All that time, energy, and love seemed wasted. I wasn’t bitter or angry, despite having plenty of reasons to be. I was simply heartbroken. It would be...

/ October 15, 2015

5 universal truths to tell yourself after a horrific break-up

  Break-ups can be rough. In fact, some scientific studies suggest they cause actual pain to the human body. A 2014 experiment suggested that thinking of our exes triggers activity in the same area of our brain that registers physical...

/ April 2, 2015
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Breakup City: Population Us

At this point, the Urban Dater has been around long enough to see many a relationship come and go. Our many contributors have covered the ins and outs of breaking up from nearly every angle. And now, it’s time for...

/ December 5, 2014

The Day We Stopped Being “Friends”

I'm not sure when it happened. Was it Tuesday? Maybe a week ago, or a random Sunday morning, as you curled up on the couch, with your laptop. Whatever the day, you made a conscious effort to remove me as...

/ October 22, 2014
relationship split ends

Relationships are Like Spilt Ends…Sometimes you Have to Cut Them

I just got of the phone with a friend and her situation reminded me of one my favorite JBS original quotes…”sometimes relationships are like split ends and they need to be cut” This can apply to both sexes, but I...

/ January 6, 2012
It's not you, it's me

It's not me it's you.

A couple of nights ago I went for a drink with some girlfriends. We are a fun bunch there’s no denying it. Intelligent, attractive and up for a laugh, I don’t mind saying it because it’s true. We are a...

/ October 17, 2011
The Golden Rule and Platinum Rule

Breaking the Platinum Rule

I've never been the type to date and not care.  If I'm going to spend my time with someone, he's going to be a quality guy who I respect and admire, and I'm going to care about him.  So when...

/ September 23, 2011