Ask the Urban Dater: The Job Seduction Edition


New Year and a new Ask the Urban Dater! Today's question comes from Hakuta Bronson, a quick-oil changing technician at Spiffy Lube. Hakuta asks: My question is if a guy meets you then later keep his distant...what is he doing? Is he analyzing what he wants? I fear this because once the guy needs time to usually goes down hill. Here goes … [Read more...]

My First Threesome

My FIrst Threesome

It was almost 10pm. I was in my skivvies, watching something on Netflix, eating pickles from a jar and scratching my crotch. I know, it's hot. Right? I get a call. It's from a gal that I'm seeing, Julie. She asks me what I'm up to, I tell her that I'm just working on some projects, trying to solve the world's problems and generally being a badass. She cuts … [Read more...]

Signs She’s The One

she's the one

It's extremely difficult to know whether you've found the person that will be there with you for the rest of your life. She's not a one time fling; she's not one of the questionable London escorts you found while backpacking through Europe right out of College. There are some signs she's the one that can help you determine if there's a deep connection and … [Read more...]

Giving Thanks and a Birthday

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I started getting a few messages from folks on LinkedIn congratulating me. Surely, I'd done something shitty, but no. Upon further investigation, I saw that LinkedIn alerted the world that I'd been "working at" the Urban Dater for 6 years now. Really? Six years!? Wow. I know I don't write as much as I once did, yet I do still date like a motherfucker. But … [Read more...]