Tag: consent

How I Got My Sexy Back After Sexual Assault

Twenty years ago, in the back of an old Ford Bronco, I finally got my sexy back. Let me explain here since you're wondering how I lost it in the first place. As a survivor of child sexual abuse, sex...

/ April 25, 2017
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What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse?

First of all, while I come not to praise Fifty Shades of Grey, neither do I come to bury it. The bashing and dissecting of its prose style and its depictions of D/s relationships have already been done, sometimes to...

/ February 27, 2015
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50 Shades of Are You Fucking Kidding Me?

If you follow the Urban Dater on Twitter, you already know that I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey this last weekend (after downing three drinks in quick succession at the nearby Applebee's, naturally). The dear, dashing Bastard Keith did the...

/ February 19, 2015
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A Girl’s Dilemma: Should I Go Up to His Apartment?

Recently, a girlfriend of mine went on a third date with a man she met online. She said the first two dates had been incredible, and she was extremely excited for the third date. They were going to go to...

/ April 15, 2014