Blog Content Guidelines

the Urban Dater has been around since 2008, we have thousands of articles published to our website from hundreds of contributors! On this page, we have provided guidelines to help you with writing your content and publishing on the Urban Dater.

Topics We'd Like to See

Mental Health in Dating and Relationships
Mental health is a crucial aspect of day-to-day life, especially in romantic relationships. It's important for people to know what resources are available and how they can help themselves (and others) to attain a better understanding of themselves.

  • Share your lived experiences in dealing with, overcoming, and researching mental health topics as they pertain to relationships.
  • Share any research and opinions informed by said research on mental health and dating, love, and sex, and relationships.

Equitability in Dating
In the modern age, there's still quite a bit of inequity in dating. Who is dating whom? How does socioeconomic factor into who couples up and marries (or don't marry)? If you have any research in this field or thoughts about this topic, we'd love to read it.

General Dating Interest

  • Recognizing the need for dating advice regarding meeting people online, in-person, dealing with breakups, and everything in-between.
  • Overcoming fears and anxiety associated with the dating world.
  • Promoting positive and uplifting insights to our readers and improving the way they look at romance and the challenges that love brings into their lives.
  • Inspiring case studies and real-life stories about dating.

Topics We Don't Want to See

  • Incel drivel. Get lost.
  • Marriage and Engagement content.
  • Getting Your Ex back, getting someone to text you back etc.

Editorial guidelines

  • We seek purely original content only. No re-posts of previously published articles or other folks’ work.
  • Any topic related to dating, sex, or relationships. 
  • Use the search function on the site to dig around and make sure that you aren’t delivering the exact same advice we’ve all heard 100 times. Make it interesting!
  • Each story needs to have an arc. Mere musings on the state of your dating life won't cut it.
  • Your story should have a strong sense of place. They should feel strongly rooted in where ever the story takes place. Must be at least 500 words (ideally in the 800-1000 word range!).
  • Your story must be factually correct and about your own life. No exaggeration, no fictional or composite characters, no hyperbole for dramatic effect.
  • Some style notes:
    • ONLY ONE SPACE AFTER PERIODS. Anything with double spaces after a period will get the article kicked back to you.
    • Spell out all numbers up to 100.
    • Consult Grammarbook for any grammar/punctuation questions.
    • Included sources. Link to research, other articles, source material.
    • If you want to talk about your experience or an opinion–go for it! But if you want to state facts, make sure to back them up! Link to other articles!
    • Make it personal, or act as a true expert–we love both!
    • Include a photo that relates to your post that we can add. The photo should be a minimum of 800 pixels wide to fit with our format. Always give credit and source for the image you’re using.
    • Be sure that you have a license to use the image for the post you submit. Creative Commons licenses allow usage as long as you attribute the source and give credit to the rights holder. Royalty-Free doesn’t mean you can use the image for free; you still need to get permission to use the license.
  • Set up a Gravatar account and link it to the email you send us your story from.
  • Send us a link to your prior work.
  • Proofread your post. Only Alex slides by without proofreading, and Betty doesn’t have time to check your work as well as his. That said, expect some edits–it’s not that your work isn’t wonderful, but having a second set of eyes do a quick skim and fix up any lingering spelling/grammar errors, as well as tailoring to fit our audience and adjusting for SEO is pretty standard.
  • Have fun! This is an elective process and shouldn’t feel like homework, so enjoy it.

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