Once upon a time, I met your dashing Urban Dater host Alex in a dark corner of a whiskey bar in Downtown Los Angeles, long after many attempts at getting together and chatting online. After a couple of drunken conversations of living vicariously through Alex’s dating foibles and lamenting the hilarity (and inanity) of so much common dating advice, joining the Urban Dater “staff,” so to speak, seemed to be an obvious next step. I’m Betty Mars, and I will be stepping up as Copy Queen, submission handler, and contributor!
A little bit about me: I’m a former sex/sexuality writer that used to cover the sex-pos movement, sex-related news, and the sex industry. After a couple of years of being completely enmeshed in that world, I decided to slowly extricate myself for the sake of my own sanity and to pursue a life that feels a bit more…normal. I was sick of living in a shadow, and fairly burned out on the politics of that business.
So, here I am! Freelancer, aspiring seamstress, incredible cook, total pain-in-the-ass, and celery-fueled neurotic with a fondness for ukuleles, Futurama, and io9. When I’m not baking pies or reading, I’m kicking it with a fuzzy gray feline or exploring the wonders of DTLA with a handsome man. Around my friend circle, I’m known for having spectacular taste in food and cocktails, and have a knack for finding fun, unusual things to do; it makes me quite the date planner. I pledge to share my secret (or not-so-secret) hideouts with you.
Nice to make your introduction, lovely readers, and I so look forward to getting to know you! While most of my dating adventures are minimal these days (I’ve been off the market and with the same total babe for nearly two and a half years now), I have a few insights to offer, including everything from thoughts on modern polyamory (or on being monogamish, rather), being That Girl, and more. I can’t promise that my insight will get you married, but maybe it will get you laid. And really, what more could you want?