We all have our “rules to live by” don't we? There are things that we do or do not do based on our own experiences. Some of you, who are single, wouldn't conceive of going after someone who's married. While others see it as a brand spankin' new challenge. For me, one of my rules to live by is never meeting a girl for the first time, if she's out with friends. I've done this a few times before and it's just failed to work favorably for me.
First off, the object of my affections isn't really concentrating all of her attention on me. Am I an attention whore? Well, perhaps… To a degree… Okay, look! I like the attention and I really do like engaging someone and I think it's really important, especially that first time. I don't think that engagement really happens when other friends are involved. That's just my opinion.
Having said that, I'm throwing my rules out the window tonight. I am going to go meet a gal, Jan, I met online and have talked to on the phone. She seems really nice and we have a lot of things in common… I know that when I go to see her, she's going to have some friends with her and a couple of them may be drunk. My gut tells me this is a bad idea. But, to hell with it, I'm going to go meet up and see what happens. Details to follow…
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…and just maybe she'll see this in time to take the hint to find a little time away from friends later. Good luck out there yb.
Oh, and my rule is to not date single moms. I know some of your readers may hate that statement, but it just hasn't worked for me… but I will throw in the caveat that I'd be way more likely to make an exception if I happened to know the woman already.
Hello, the Pete. Glad to see you're up to no good, as per usual.
On the single mom tip, I recommend taking a look at a post I put out there a while ago: https://theurbandater.com/opinion/dating-a-single-…
I think single moms are definitely worth a guy's time! I support single moms, dangit and I have the shirt to prove it!
If a guy can hold his own with my friends, or even show some signs of having fun, I'm totally in. If he sits there and whines or tries to keep me from talking to my friends and doesn't talk to anyone else .. it'll be the last he sees me.
I actually like dates where I meet his friends and where he meets mine. Not usually a first date/first meeting though, but whatever works.
Its really a trial by fire.
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