I'm in a reflective mood. I got up today and I was perusing a new gallery of photos on a friend's facebook page for none other then my friend's Hallowedding. Let me just say, birthdays, burlesque and holy matrimony DO go together! The past two weeks have been a bit stressful for me with the addition of new clients, new projects and two weddings for which I was the Officiant (aka Reverend). I couldn't help but be nervous and slightly overwhelmed. However, I got through everything and now I look ahead to the holiday season to see what that brings. I have to say though, when I first did the whole registered minister thing, it was kind of a joke in my mind, a novelty if you will. I was naive to discount the true importance of what I would be doing… You see, I could make jokes that “yes, I'm a reverend, I'll marry you kids right now and I do burial rites.” Funny, right? Well, it turns out it's a lot more than that, of course. When my “nephew” asked me, I was a bit out of sorts due to the circumstances and timing. When the time came though, I would never ever want to be anywhere else than at the side of my “nephew,” who I held when he was a baby, watched over him as a little kid and, finally, stood at his side as he opens a new chapter in his life. I was honored to be a part of it.
My friends Miguel and Andora took that same plunge last weekend. Again, I was asked to take part as the Officiant of ceremonies. Again, I accepted. We joked about what I would say and what not. It was funny. This wedding was on a beach in Laguna… errr… Laguna Beach? Anyway, it was a different setting, more intimate, more people. More for me to worry about. I was nervous. The rehearsal was a breeze. The day of the wedding brought a few surprises, however. We had to change locations due to the tide being too high. Everything worked out great, though. Truly. I got through the ceremony and I saw the love in Miguel & Andora's eyes… It was then that I really understood what my place in this whole thing really was. I was not just saying “Do you wanna be that person's spouse, blah blah?” No, I was a caretaker for a joyous occasion, a moment in time never to be repeated, to be shared with everyone. It means an eternity and a lifetime of love. I felt grateful to be a part of that ceremony as well and that many others shared their appreciation and gratitude with me made it that much more special for me. Many thanks go to my friend, Rich, for helping me prep and just being there to instill confidence when I was jittery.
The last ceremony I performed was yesterday, the Hallowedding (pictures to come). I couldn't be happier for Ron & Leanne, I truly love those two people. They had someone picked out already to do the honors for their ceremony… However, that didn't work out so they reached out to me and asked me if I wanted to officiate their wedding. I answered quickly and decidedly, “Yes, it would be my honor!” I had some idea of what I was getting into this time around. There was going to be more people, it was going to be a far cry from my previous ceremonies that I've done. Yeah. I really had no idea. Putting together the reading for the ceremony was a lot of fun. It could be a little more loose and had room for more humor, but not too much. I felt that everything was ripe for an awesome event! I sent my draft of the reading over to Lesley and Don and they both loved it. I felt relieved. I knew there was not going to be a rehearsal, so I needed to have time to prepare the reading and prepare myself. When the time came, my friend Loni, came with me to the Hallowedding extravaganza and read through everything with me twice. She really helped me out with the wedding vow portion and I'm so grateful for that!!! The whole extravaganza was awesome, by the way. The performances by the Burlesque dancers, were sexy, creative and so well done. It was just awesome! Lesley was great in her set, too! Anyway, the anticipation for my part was building up! I wanted it to be done!!
Between sets, DJ Hobo was “doing his thing.” Just a quick aside here: One of the lessons learned from this event was that it's a bad idea to get the DJ trashed at the beginning of the show. In other words, a bottle of Absolut is absolutely not a good idea (Lesley, I'm giving you my “I'm gonna kick you in the baby maker” look… Moving on, DJ Hobo… I'm pretty sure he's dead from alcohol poisoning, the raisin like pellet of human flesh he calls a liver must have been calling it quits. It was almost a disaster… Fortunately, we got through everything finally. I did slip up once, calling Ron “John.” But that was it, everything else went like clockwork. At the end of it all, I was glad to be a part of yet another occasion so filled with love and excitement. I was, again, honored and touched to take part. In all, the event, when it was all said and done, made me feel like I really could get up in front of a large audience and hold their attention and be somewhat entertaining. It got me thinking about something else that I'd “put on the shelf.” My friend, Lesley, told me just this morning that I should be proud of myself… You know what? I totally am! I can't put into words how that whole event made me feel. I'm a very fortunate person.
I know, I know that these events are never about me. It's about the couples that are being brought together. However, I do have my part to play and it really has given me a new love and appreciation for this thing that started off merely as a joke. How foolish I was to think it was just that… I've been a lucky guy these past few months. The people I've joined in marriage, by asking me to take a part in their life, in such a special way, they have given me so much… It's impossible for me to express what that really means to me.