Billy, the Virgin Slayer…

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A Vir­gin Slayer?  What the hell is that!!?  It’s a loose term that I assign to guys that are strictly after women who are vir­gins.  In this day and age that seems like an odd con­cept; not nec­es­sar­ily for some­one to pur­sue a vir­gin, but that some­one is a vir­gin at all seems to be unusual.

Enter my friend Billy.Billy and I have been friends for a long time.  He’s a good look­ing guy and he’s always get­ting looks from women when we’re out and about.  My female friends com­ment on how hand­some he is.  He is pos­sessed of a raw sex appeal that women take notice of.  His prob­lem is that he doesn’t approach women.  Nope.  He won’t do it.  Not because he thinks he’s bet­ter than them or above that sort of thing.  The guy’s just a bit too inse­cure to make a move.  Thus, he set­tles a  lot of times for women he doesn’t really want.  Sure, he shouldn’t set­tle, yet he does.

He’s been with his share of women.  Most of them I don’t really care for.  Usu­ally, these women, too, tend to be inse­cure and end up really dom­i­nat­ing Billy’s time and get jeal­ous when he goes out with­out them.  Seri­ously.  Like every girl­friend he’s had has been like this!  In all, Billy’s a great guy, has a good heart and loves his fam­ily.  He wants a house 2.5 mil­lion kids and three dogs, two ducks, a kalei­do­scope and every fight­ing game ever made.  That’s not too much to ask.  Is it?

For the last four years or so Billy has been tak­ing annual trips to spend time with fam­ily that live in Mex­ico.  It was only until recently that Billy told me that the main pur­pose for his vis­its is to find a bride.  Not only find a bride, but a younger vir­gin bride… This, I thought, was a bit weird and some­what extreme.

I’ve heard of plenty of peo­ple who are vir­gins who wait to get mar­ried.  I respect that.  In fact one of my friends is get­ting mar­ried in March and is one and he’s 33… I’d have imploded at some point.  Then I went to a wed­ding with a friend of mine and the cou­ple were also vir­gins and they were thirty!  So it’s not unheard of, it’s just rare.

Billy’s rea­sons were that he wanted to find a nice, respect­ful woman that would help take care of the home and raise the kids that he wants.  He wants a house­wife.  When I prod­ded fur­ther I wanted to know: Why does this bride have to be a vir­gin?  His answer was that women who are sex­u­ally active have lower morals and are less inclined to stick through a mes­sage and more likely to cheat…  Well, I turned that logic around real quick and asked Billy if he holds him­self to the same belief since he’s sex­u­ally active.  “It doesn’t mat­ter. I’m the man,” he replied…  In other words he had no good response.

Date Daily had a good post on the topic of why men want vir­gins. I think that some men feel really intim­i­dated by women who are not only sex­u­ally expe­ri­enced, but also expe­ri­enced in life and, per­haps, more worldly expe­ri­ence… Per­son­ally, these are the sorts of women that I seek.  Why?  I want to meet women that can relate to me; women that I can relate to and learn from as well.  We get bet­ter at activ­i­ties when we per­form them with some­one who is bet­ter or more skill­ful in said activ­ity.  This is true in life, too, I think.  We gain more knowl­edge, more insight when we sur­round our selves with peo­ple who are smarter and have a more enlight­ened out­look on life.  Which is why Billy’s pref­er­ence for younger vir­gin women just makes me a bit crazy.

I know Billy’s folks didn’t like the women that he would bring home. Per­haps there is a lot of their influ­ence in Billy’s trips to Mex­ico.  I’d bet on it actu­ally.  I think it’s too bad really.  I think he’s miss­ing out on meet­ing a lot of great women because his focus is so narrowed.

What do you think?

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  1. Posted December 30, 2009 at 2:13 pm | Permalink

    Wow there are still guys like this?

    I grew up with a sim­i­lar set of beliefs, and imploded at 23. I’m prob­a­bly going to hell.

    Hav­ing sex or hav­ing had sex alone does not denote any kind of lack of morals, unless you truly want some­one who is black and white rigid. I do not, which is why I imploded at 23.

    It hon­estly sounds like the guy has seen so much fail­ure in his cur­rent rela­tion­ships that he’s revert­ing to his “roots” or “reli­gion” or any­thing to make some­thing work.

    He wants a good girl who will treat him well. He’s just going about it very strangely. You may want to warn him though, that girls who wait for sex til mar­riage.. often change after sex/marriage and can turn into quite the witch. So he needs to make sure he under­stands her expec­ta­tions of the rela­tion­ship, lifestyle, and sex­ual appetites.

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