The Truth About Dating a Cougar

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The definition of a cougar is… Let’s throw out our definition of what a cougar is and be real. If you have ever thought about dating an older woman (and who hasn’t?), you’re probably familiar with the way the fantasy of cougar dating plays out. A glamorous cougar type like Demi Moore inhabits the role of sex kitten and personal bank account for a naïve … [Read more...]

What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse?

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First of all, while I come not to praise Fifty Shades of Grey, neither do I come to bury it. The bashing and dissecting of its prose style and its depictions of D/s relationships have already been done, sometimes to excess. Whatever its flaws might be, if the Fifty Shades makes you feel a nice, sexy glow in your nether regions, that's fine. Embrace the … [Read more...]

The Aftermath of a Long Distance Fling

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I recently had the privilege and pain of experiencing a weekend fling. This is not to be confused with a one-night stand, of which I have had many in my lifetime. No, a fling carries with it all of the underpinnings that tie together a real relationship but leaves you with only frayed ends when it's over. Here's how it starts: you meet someone. You're … [Read more...]

6 Tips to Make Her Valentine’s Day Perfect

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Cards, a dozen roses, jewelry, chocolate, gourmet dinners--these are all things that men are generally told they need to shell out for their significant others on Valentine’s Day...but do women really expect that? A new survey, released by international online dating site AnastasiaDate, revealed some good information about Americans’ attitudes and … [Read more...]

Your Bullshit Shall Not Pass (and a Happy New Year!)

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Happy New Year from the Urban Dater! Another year has gone by--oh boy! I can hardly believe it’s 2015. Holy shit, dudes. I hate to be the bearer of bad (and obvious) news, but we’re all getting older (my little old lady ankles are my unfortunate evidence--I have to feel them EVERY MORNING). Hopefully we’re all getting a little wiser, a little more … [Read more...]