How Do You Know When You’re in Love?

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How do you know when you’re in love? I always thought it was a matter of “when," like it could be so easily defined by a year or two years or at least three for what you feel to be real in any way. I force myself to swallow down something condescending like “Maybe you don’t know what you feel so you call it love,” when a friend tells me that three months … [Read more...]

Breakup City: Population Us

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At this point, the Urban Dater has been around long enough to see many a relationship come and go. Our many contributors have covered the ins and outs of breaking up from nearly every angle. And now, it’s time for me to throw my breakup on top of the pile. Last time I was here, I shared some stream of consciousness drivel (I AM NOT LINKING YOU BECAUSE I … [Read more...]

How Honest Are We?

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You could hit me with a red flag and said, "I just hit you with a red flag," and I still wouldn't take the hint that I was in a bad situation. I am a hopeful romantic. Red flags for me are weaknesses in a person I can overlook or accept. This particular night out it must have been the combination of over-dramatic venting about wanting a relationship, with … [Read more...]

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Singles in Their Twenties Make

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The twenties are a great time in just about anybody's life. The twenties are a decade where the world is full of hope, opportunity, and best of all, great potential for finding love. Unfortunately, love is also the department where men and women of this age range often make the most mistakes that can easily be avoided. In this article, I will be discussing … [Read more...]

How to Stop Confusing Longing With Love

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Have you ever ached with desire for someone you can’t have? Perhaps your married dentist? Or therapist? Or even a friend? You long to be in their company and to receive the simplest acknowledgement of how nice you look, how kind and funny you are. You imagine all the gifts you want to give him and all the experiences you wish you could share. If only he … [Read more...]