Phone Sex For Beginners

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SLN-JeffHave you ever tried phone sex? If so, what is the reason for doing it? To reconnect with an intimate partner with whom you maintain a long-distance relationship, or to try something new, exciting and intimate?

Regardless of whether you tried it or not, for most people it’s kind of difficult to start this type of conversation, and not sound ridiculous, but intimate.

You might think that the question “What are you wearing?” is a cliché that you hear in every other movie, but it can be a very good icebreaker. The answer can then slowly “glide” from entertainment to sensual and you can slowly ‘impale’ the sexual energy. On the other hand you can start by focusing on your breathing being sensual and passionate. Sometimes saying “hello” in a sexy voice or tone will be enough… Everything is a matter of character and the moment.

If you feel weird about initiating phone sex, don’t be, <a href=”http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/phone-sex“>here is a handy piece of information</a>. Research conducted in the U.S. showed that 85 % of men do not have anything against phone sex. Remember, phone sex is just amplifying the experience of masturbation, while you actually do the work yourself.

Intense experience

Besides allowing partners to re-connect on an intimate level, phone sex is also a very safe form of sex. You are literally talking about where you want to be touched and where you want to touch your partner. You do not need any protection. It’s all about your imagination, the picture in your head, you can be where you want to be, who you want to be and what you want to experience and that can be a very intense experience.

One of the most important things is to trust the person with whom you engage in phone sex. Otherwise, you can feel very vulnerable because you’re sharing the most intimate fantasies with the person on the other end of the line. It can be more intimate than the touch itself and sex in the physical sense.

The fulfillment of fantasies

Besides requiring very high confidence, phone sex also requires the correct signal reading in order to start a conversation and let it flow in the right direction in order not to look ridiculous to the partner. When all these elements match, you can relax in having sex with the help of the most powerful sexual organ – the brain. Your brain and mind can connect with your partner on a level that you never dreamed of being able to connect.

For example, when you answer the phone, you may not feel that kind of connection, but when you start to talk to each other over the phone and listening to each other’s voice you will begin to feel the connection with the partner. We have already mentioned that the phone sex is a perfect way of fulfilling your fantasies, which logistically or physically they would not be possible to fulfill. Sex in space, in another time, environment, sex that involves role playing… Some people may never have embarked on role-playing in person with their partners, but only over the phone because it is sometimes easier to start a certain taboo topic this way.

Tell him/her what you want him/her to do to you…

phone-sex-womanWhat can you do to improve the experience of phone sex?

When you answer the phone, the easiest way to being is to start talking very casually and normally, and that it eventually turns into something more intimate and erotic. You can start using words that can have a double meaning, emphasizing them, making it clear to your partner what type of talking you’re in the mood for.

If the conversation goes in that direction, lie down and relax. Turn off or lower the lights, turn down or turn off the television, music. In time you will probably lose some or all of your clothing. It is your private thing of how you are going to talk to your partner, but you don’t need to start talking dirty or swearing like a truck driver, unless you and your partner are excited and prefer it that way. Ask suggestive questions and listen to what your partner is talking about. Use euphemisms which will drive you and your partner crazy with excitement.

If you limit vulgar talk, definitely do not limit the descriptions making sure to be very detail in you description. The more explicit the detail, the better the “talk” will be. For example, do not just say “When you come home, I’ll wait for you in bed.” Describe everything, how you’ll be dressed, how excited and turned on you are, what you want him/her to do to you and what you’re going to do to him/her. Describe where you want to be kissed; touched, licked … Scenarios are endless. Say all those things while moaning. Do and say only what seems natural to you, do not whine because it’ll sound ridiculous and unrealistic. It is important for you and your partner to be introduced into all of this.

Imagine phone sex like a game of tennis, constantly switching the tennis ball to another “player” and scoring points. What’s more beautiful than an “ace” in sex?

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Maya is a freelance writer and a blogger. She loves writing about anything related to relationship advice. She loves spending time cooking for her friends and family and she's always on the lookout for something new. Currently, she's working on a project for Risqueboutique where she found the inspiration for writing this article.

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