Does Personality Trump Looks? Should It?

So I was recently acquainted with @myblindcupid on Twit­ter.  They were very friendly and ask­ing ques­tions about social media, get­ting noticed and such.  Well, I nor­mally get noticed by act­ing a fool, chicken head and jack ass all at the same time.  I know, it’s an amaz­ing tal­ent.  Right?  In fur­ther look­ing at @myblindcupid’s account I see a web­site: http://​myblind​cu​pid​.com.   Intrigued, I click…What I find is a site that hasn’t quite launched yet, but it didn’t need to, to under­stand the con­cept they were going with.

You see, My Blind Cupid is a ser­vice that pro­motes per­son­al­ity, the stuff on the inside, rather than pro­file pic­tures of half naked peo­ple who tan too much and have fore­head mus­cles.  The idea here, the mes­sage, is one that we all know.  Online dat­ing is super­fi­cial.  We sign up with a site, build our pro­file, post our pics and think of witty things to say, or play up how much of a catch we are.  Step two, you ask?  Easy, before you even take a look at what’s out there, you locate your search fil­ter.  Fil­ter­ing out sin­gle par­ents, over weight, too tall, too short, too skinny, too tragic, too what­ever.   The point is that you’ve effec­tively nar­rowed your dat­ing pool in favor of your stan­dards, while also fil­ter­ing out a lot of other peo­ple with poten­tially amaz­ing per­son­al­i­ties who are prob­a­bly amaz­ing peo­ple in their own right.

Per­son­ally, I’m guilty of this.  I don’t feel bad about it, nec­es­sar­ily.  I mean, I know what I want and what I feel I deserve and that’s what I go after.  How­ever, I’ve also done the opposite.

Years ago when I was try­ing to find myself and started dat­ing after a long lay­off, I dated var­i­ous types of women.  Women that I wouldn’t have ordi­nar­ily have dated.  These women were either short, chain smok­ers, large and in charge, shaved head… I mean, I was ALL OVER the place.  Lit­er­ally.  How­ever, dur­ing that time that’s when I feel I learned the most about myself as a per­son.  I learned what I could deal with and not deal with but also gained per­spec­tive into myself and the peo­ple I dated.  Not only that, but I dated some women that are pretty eff­ing amaz­ing that I’m still friends with to this day.

In all, I’m pretty excited about what My Blind Cupid is going to do.  I signed up just to see, you should, too.

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