5 Topics to Avoid on a Date.

Typ­i­cally, if I’m talk­ing to some­one about con­ver­sa­tion on a date I’m sug­gest­ing top­ics of con­ver­sa­tion. Things that will perk and pique a person’s inter­est. How­ever, what’s just a crit­i­cal, if not more so, is the top­ics that shouldn’t be dis­cussed. They have the poten­tial to mess up your date worse than one Evan­der Holyfield’s ear after Mike Tyson ate it for a sen­si­ble din­ner.{openx:2}
5. Health Issues — As inter­est­ing as they might be to you, gen­er­ally speak­ing men and women don’t want to hear about what your phys­i­cal ail­ments are, how you messed up your back, your reflux esophag­i­tus, or how you have explo­sive gas.  Avoid these top­ics on your date, espe­cially when you’re at the din­ner table.

4. Your Ex — Avoid talk­ing about your ex.  Again, no one wants to hear about them.  Many times, peo­ple may feel like they are being mea­sured against your ex.  Talk­ing about exes, espe­cially right off the bat may reveal “chinks in the armor” you’re not ready to expose yet.  It’s impor­tant to estab­lish a clean slate when start­ing off a relationship.

3. Lame Sto­ries — Of course it’s impor­tant to tell a per­son about who you are!  One of the ways we accom­plish this is by telling sto­ries.  One way a per­son gets shut down by their date is by telling sto­ries.  That is, lame sto­ries.  Don’t tell them.  I’m not say­ing make sh@t up either.  I’m refer­ring to lame time-​​waster sto­ries where you missed a bus, or couldn’t go to the restroom because the facil­ity was bro­ken or how you missed get­ting tick­ets to a show by one phone call.  Unad­ven­tur­ous sto­ries leave a per­son seem­ing bland.  Oh, as Tay­lor­Cast would say, keep your sto­ries brief and to the point.  I could learn some­thing there.

2. Jar­gon — I work in infor­ma­tion tech­nol­ogy.  There’s a lot of con­fus­ing acronyms and ter­mi­nol­ogy that, frankly, peo­ple who don’t work in the indus­try have not a clue about.  This is tough because when I tell a woman what I do, I’m excited to talk about it, how­ever, I can see the “checked out” glazed over look within a minute, if not less.  I keep the tech talk brief and elab­o­rate if I can see my date is gen­uinely interested.

1. Sex — This one is for the men… Sure guys.  You know what you like and what you want to do to your women, but your date doesn’t want to hear about it.  Not only is it rude to bring it up and dis­com­fort­ing, but it also por­trays you as grade A douche-​​bag, maybe even a douche-​​nozzle.  Avoid talk­ing about sex with some­one you’re on a date with, you’ll suc­ceed at not caus­ing your date to punch you in the weenis.

Related posts:

1. How Not to Get Punched in the Neck on the First Date.
2. 15 Things NOT to Say on a Date (Famous Last Words).
3. 6 Things You Shouldn’t Do On a Date.
4. Dat­ing Recipes: the Artsy Cul­tural Date Thing.
5. Dat­ing Recipes 101: Beyond the First Date