What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse?

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First of all, while I come not to praise Fifty Shades of Grey, neither do I come to bury it. The bashing and dissecting of its prose style and its depictions of D/s relationships have already been done, sometimes to excess. Whatever its flaws might be, if the Fifty Shades makes you feel a nice, sexy glow in your nether regions, that's fine. Embrace the … [Read more...]

4 Signs That Your Nice Guy is Actually an Asshole

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When it comes to dating, I’m a bit of a masochist. I would never admit to anyone that I like dating assholes, but somehow that’s what I’ve often ended up with. I seem to have an innate ability to repel decent guys while simultaneously bringing the biggest jerks into my intimate distance. I don’t do it on purpose. It’s an almost autonomic response, if such … [Read more...]

50 Shades of Are You Fucking Kidding Me?

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If you follow the Urban Dater on Twitter, you already know that I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey this last weekend (after downing three drinks in quick succession at the nearby Applebee's, naturally). The dear, dashing Bastard Keith did the same, and after much conversation between the two of us, we wanted to bring a hilariously informal discussion … [Read more...]

The Path to True Love Never Did Run Smooth

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We’ve probably all wondered at some point in our lives, "Why is it so hard to find true love?" There are literally billions of people living on this planet, so why is it so difficult to find one person to put up with us? Both sexes experience a selection of stresses on the trek to that special person, but it’s men who are expected to step up and grab the … [Read more...]

Abusive Relationships and How to Leave Them!

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You spent the majority of your freshman year at college in bed, crying, and wondering how you ended up this way. You used to be smart and funny. You used to have tons of friends and loved life. Now you just love him and somehow that seems like enough, even though you know it’s really nothing at all. Domestic violence is not a topic to take lightly. In the … [Read more...]