Talking Sports With Men.

I grew up as a rel­a­tively pretty girl with a very strong tomboy side to my per­son­al­ity. I remem­ber being quite young (5-​​ish?) when my dad and my brother took a few min­utes to explain the four “downs” in foot­ball. I took right to it! I was a Cleve­land Browns fan from the first time I remem­ber see­ing a game! I also had reg­u­lar “date nights” with my dad at the old Munic­i­pal Sta­dium in Cleve­land, for Tribe games and Browns games. At my par­ents’ house, I still have a “Tower of Power” poster, signed by Joe Carter, framed tick­ets from the last series at Muni and open­ing day tick­ets at “the Jake”, etc. I could go on, but you get the picture!

Dur­ing high school, I was always very good friends with the foot­ball play­ers, I cheered for the wrestling team and knew the sport inside & out, and I played soft­ball, but was closer to the base­ball team mem­bers than my own team­mates. I was the one girl that really under­stood all of the nuances of each sport. So, I was the cool chick to hang around. This car­ried over in col­lege and afterward.

These days, I notice that my inter­est (really, it’s a pas­sion) in sports still attracts guys. And I’m still a cool chick for that. Some­times to the point that I think a man wants to pro­pose on the spot! It’s quite enter­tain­ing at times. Seri­ously, women… if you’re in a sports bar, or even just a bar with sports on TV, and want to attract a man’s atten­tion, show some (edu­cated) inter­est in sports, and I promise you the man will respond.

There is a catch; how­ever. I have learned that I can overdo the sports thing – and in very short order. I’ve noticed myself becom­ing annoy­ingly pas­sion­ate about sports at times. Dur­ing a recent date, it was obvi­ous that he and I were not a “love match”, though he seemed to be a great guy. The con­ver­sa­tion nat­u­rally turned to sports. After just a few min­utes, it was clear that I knew more than he did, and I’m pretty cer­tain he was quite intim­i­dated. I should have known to pull back, but I let my pas­sion and knowl­edge rule the con­ver­sa­tion. And, when the date ended, I knew we wouldn’t even end up as friends.

I also knew if I didn’t con­tain my fer­vor just a bit, I would con­tinue to run men off. At least until a man becomes com­fort­able enough to accept my pas­sion­ate rants as a good part of me!

The les­son learned: Some amount of sports knowl­edge and excite­ment is a good thing, but be aware of the man’s gen­eral need to know more and not feel intim­i­dated by a beau­ti­ful, smart, sports-​​loving woman! Attract him with sports-​​talk, but don’t let it take over the evening. Don’t get cut by the double-​​edged sword. Spo­ken from experience(s)!!

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