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How Do You Know When You’re in Love?

How do you know when you’re in love? I always thought it was a matter of “when,” like it could be so easily defined by a year or two years or at least three for what you feel to be real in any way. I force myself to swallow down something condescending like “Maybe you […]

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Breaking up with someone you love

How to Break Up With Someone You Still Love

You have just broken up with your ex and the prospects of facing the world without her prove bleak. You are dejected, upset and heartbroken. How do you break up with someone you still love? You need to get out a grip on yourself and get out of this depressed state. It is possible and you […]

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Breakup City: Population Us

At this point, the Urban Dater has been around long enough to see many a relationship come and go. Our many contributors have covered the ins and outs of breaking up from nearly every angle. And now, it’s time for me to throw my breakup on top of the pile. Last time I was here, […]

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How Honest Are We?

You could hit me with a red flag and said, “I just hit you with a red flag,” and I still wouldn’t take the hint that I was in a bad situation. I am a hopeful romantic. Red flags for me are weaknesses in a person I can overlook or accept. This particular night out it must […]

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The 5 Biggest Mistakes Singles in Their Twenties Make

The twenties are a great time in just about anybody’s life. The twenties are a decade where the world is full of hope, opportunity, and best of all, great potential for finding love. Unfortunately, love is also the department where men and women of this age range often make the most mistakes that can easily be […]

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Giving Thanks and a Birthday

I started getting a few messages from folks on LinkedIn congratulating me. Surely, I’d done something shitty, but no. Upon further investigation, I saw that LinkedIn alerted the world that I’d been “working at” the Urban Dater for 6 years now. Really? Six years!? Wow. I know I don’t write as much as I once […]

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Sharing Mind, Body and Saliva

Remco Kort, of the Netherlands Organisation for Applied Scientific Research found that the amount of bacteria in saliva rises after an intimate kiss, with a ten second kiss sharing 80 million bacteria. The study noted that those that kiss at least nine times a day share similar oral bacteria. The role of kissing has “an […]

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